Sex Therapist Explains Why Some Women Say ‘Daddy’ In Bed

Despite Freud saying that all girls have penis envy and all children low-key want to bone their parents, that just isn’t true.

Sigmund Freud, while a genius in many ways, was also crazy addicted to cocaine. So, take his theories with a grain of salt. Actually… use more than a grain — like a lot of salt.

There’s no delicate way around saying this: A lot of women enjoy calling men they have sex with “daddy.”

No, they’re not fetishizing their dads, stepdads, adoptive fathers or what have you.

Women calling their sexual partners “daddy” has absolutely nothing to do with their family at all.


To be fair, I often call my significant others “baby,” which is also weird, right?

Thankfully, Broadly spoke to a sex therapist to answer our questions about why some people like to call their sexual partners the same nickname they used for the person they once asked for a pony during their fifth birthday party.

Vanessa Marin, the sex therapist in question, said that it has nothing to do with “daddy issues.” She said,

Yes, ‘daddy’ can mean ‘father,’ but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job. That’s usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom. It’s a bit of a ’70s porn cliche. I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father.